Talking about bad stuff leads to even more wallowing

Today I'm realising that if you stop talking about something negative, you don't think about it so much.

Let me rephrase that.

Today I'm realising something that sounds totally obvious.

Today I am realising that when faced with a reminder of something, I can either dwell on it and wallow in my own little negative world of remembering and unhappiness (why do we sometimes seem to want to do that?), or I can decide not to think about it and to concentrate on something else.

Also that talking about something makes you think about it even more. Which sounds obvious, but I mean... so much thought has to go into what you're going to say, who to, how to say it... it'd take less thought to think about it and then decide to not pay it any attention.

Just one of those things that we sometimes forget, even though when you say it out loud it's like... duh?