Stop saying if and start saying when

I have a bucket list. Some things I've ticked off it are visiting New York (and seeing several of the sights there), doing a firewalk, getting a fish pedicure, and toasting marshmallows. Things I'm yet to tick off are climbing The O2, seeing Slipknot live, going to gay pride, and learning to speak Swedish fluently, among many others!

The reason I started a bucketlist is that I had a health problem a few years ago (which we don't need to go into really for the purposes of this blog post), and after that I felt the need to do exciting and interesting things, and make proper plans for doing them. Whether it's through a new perspective, fear of said health problem coming back, or some other complicated feeling, I don't like saying "someday" anymore. Someday isn't good enough for me now.

So when I decide I want to do something, I want to either do it immediately, or if that's not possible, try to make a commitment to do it at a particular time. Make plans. I've always been a bit of an impatient person anyway, feeling the urge to do something right away once I decide that's what should be done, but I feel that way even more so nowadays.

"Someday" doesn't get things done. "Someday" can sometimes mean never. It can mean just not getting around to things, and with life being what it is, so unpredictable, that's not good enough. So stop saying "if" and start saying "when". Nothing needs to be set in stone, but instead of saying "If I ever make it to Las Vegas", say "When I go to Las Vegas", and have a time in mind - whether it's this time next year, when the kids are a bit older, when you get that promotion... whatever you see fit to plan towards. Because if you don't, you might never get to do that thing you really want to experience, and that's why to me, phrases like "if", "someday", "hopefully", and "at some point" just aren't good enough.

Here's my bucketlist, and here's where you can make your own.